That was the year that was

It’s the last few days of 2023.

Most of us will be thinking about the twelve months that have passed and what 2024 might hold, be it joys and lows, miracles and disasters.

We can’t predict the future but at best we can welcome it with open arms and enjoy the moment. Taking happiness in the small things in life rather than the big ones.

And most of all, being kind.

I’m not a great one for New Year’s resolutions but I have vowed to steer away from negative and toxic people whose dramas can suck you into a void from which it’s very difficult to emerge.

I want to do more walking, exploring and singing. And always remain curious.

In the meantime, I’m compiling a playlist for tomorrow evening because I’ve been press-ganged into donning the headphones and performing as DJ for the New Year’s Eve party at the Lush Places pub.

I’ve been doing this for several years now, initially with the back-up of DJ extraordinaire, Ding Dong Daddy, who was better known as award-winning musician Simon Emmerson, who lived in the village.

He died in March this year and left a gaping hole in the musical stratosphere. Here in Lush Places, his eclectic knowledge was a thing to behold when my own role at the pub parties was to bring the cheese in the form of 70s disco and audience participation stuff such as Cha Cha Slide.

I used his DJ gear during the 2020 lockdown, when every day at one o’clock I’d play the theme tune to The Sound of Music before blasting out a song request from my windows overlooking the village square.

Last Christmas, Simon gave me his DJ gear, telling me he wasn’t going to be using it again. He died a few months later. In December, he was celebrated at a special concert at London’s Roundhouse venue.

We’ll be remembering him here in Lush Places this New Year’s Eve.

Anzac Day

My Grampa was an adventurer and a spinner of yarns. The son of farmers-turned-publicans, Arthur Hull was born in Plymouth in November 1891. 

I imagine him as a small boy gazing out across the Sound and wondering what lay beyond the horizon.

In 1910, he set sail for a new life in Australia with his best friend, Ernest Hoare.

Arthur became a sheep drover and tamer of horses before enlisting with the Australian and New Zealand Army Corps at the outbreak of World War I, fighting at Gallipoli and then in France.

At the end of the war, he returned, wounded, to England on a hospital ship and never went back to Australia. Ernest was killed in action and is buried at Courcelette cemetery. His name is on the national war memorial in Canberra.

The two of them are pictured here together (Grampa is on the right).

Arthur became one of Somerset County Council’s first tenants in its smallholding scheme for returning soldiers.

My mother, who remembers her father-in-law very fondly, says adjusting to life in a near feudal village after his years in Australia and then four years of war must have been very hard for him, with the land agent and other retired army officers representing the local gentry. Apparently, Art (as he was known) had developed somewhat socialist tendencies which were very unusual then, especially in farming circles, and he had a flamboyant personality, wearing a snakeskin band around his hat and a red and a white spotted neckerchief. He was well known for his exceptional skills with a stockman’s whip for separating cattle. He’d always have a roll-up at the corner of his mouth and a well-trained dog by his side.

He died in 1966 so I barely remember him, but I’ve always been fascinated by the family stories, tall tales and the photos of him as a strong young man – he reminded me of Popeye. Gramp had tattoos of a butterfly on his chest, a cowgirl on one forearm and a cockerel chasing a hen on the other, although I never saw them.

Today, 25 April, is ANZAC Day, a national day of remembrance in Australia and New Zealand.

The Gallipoli campaign of 1915-16 was a costly failure for the Allies, with an estimated 27,000 French, and 115,000 British and dominion troops (Great Britain and Ireland, Australia New Zealand, India and Newfoundland) killed or wounded. Some 8,000 Australians were killed. Over half the casualties (73,485) were British and Irish troops.

The Ottoman Empire paid a heavy price for their victory: an estimated 250,000 Turkish and Arab troops were killed or wounded defending Gallipoli.

(Source: https://nzhistory.govt.nz/media/interactive/gallipoli-casualties-country)

My mother says Art never really forgave Winston Churchill, who had planned the disastrous campaign.

She also remembers him telling her that, at the end of the battle, after nine months, he still had the same twopence in his pocket he had set out with. There was nothing to spend it on.

‘More pleasantly, he remembered those little Greek islands which seemed to wink white in the sun as they passed by on their sea journey to Turkey.

‘He was touched that his two horses recognised him when they got back to Italy from Gallipoli. Then they had to take their horses on to France. There they took part in the Battle of the Somme at Delville Wood. They just seem to have gone from one horror to another.’

Dreamers by Siegfried Sassoon (1886-1967)

Soldiers are citizens of death’s grey land,

Drawing no dividend from time’s to-morrows.   

In the great hour of destiny they stand,

Each with his feuds, and jealousies, and sorrows.   

Soldiers are sworn to action; they must win   

Some flaming, fatal climax with their lives.

Soldiers are dreamers; when the guns begin

They think of firelit homes, clean beds and wives.

I see them in foul dug-outs, gnawed by rats,

And in the ruined trenches, lashed with rain,   

Dreaming of things they did with balls and bats,

And mocked by hopeless longing to regain   

Bank-holidays, and picture shows, and spats,

And going to the office in the train.

All work and no play…

I’ve been up to my neck in work lately.

Not of the really creative kind but satisfying nonetheless.

After a massive Crowdfunder appeal, Lush Places finally raised the money it needed to revamp the village green as a space for all ages to enjoy.

Thanks to grant funding from various sources and the goodwill and hard work of so many local people, we finally pulled it off.

To hear and see so many children enjoying themselves, climbing high, mass see-sawing and swinging and shrieking, is absolutely fantastic and worth the hard slog.

A good friend pointed me to this quote by Nelson Mandela: There can be no keener revelation of a society’s soul than the way in which it treats its children.

My other bit of work has been handling the publicity for Bridport Literary Festival. It’s been full on for the small team for some weeks now, and this last week saw the culmination of it all.

What a fantastic event. Such a credit to the town and all who sail in her. The calibre of writers was incredible and inspirational. Something to suit everyone.

This week is another busy one with barely time to draw breath. Then I’m planning to shut myself away in my Shed of Dreams to get into a regular routine for some long overdue writing time (and maybe a sleep).

Trick or treat

On Halloween, there are gangs of children roaming the village, dressed as ghouls, ghosts and vampires.

They’re trick or treating, a tradition which for years I didn’t like very much because it seemed so menacing and demanding and (sorry, my American friends) so, well, American.

However, here in Lush Places there is an unwritten rule that children go only to places decorated for Halloween or with a pumpkin in the window.

Living in the middle of the village, the children seem to make a beeline for our house, where a cheerful little pumpkin made by the youngest granddaughter balances on a Waitrose cup for life and is draped in spooky lights.

But it’s lovely to see them because this year I am prepared. I’ve got in supplies from Lidl, decanted the sweets into smaller containers and then invited the children to help themselves.

They’ve all been very polite, apart from one small boy who plunged his hand in and took out about seven sweets all at once but then I did say he could help himself.

Earlier this afternoon, children in witches’ hats and skeleton outfits scaled the new play tower on the village green, shrieking and yelling in delight at the new equipment that’s just been installed.

And this morning, the usually bored-looking children waiting for the bus to take them to secondary school were up on the green, whooping and hollering and enjoying the see-saw.

The sound of children having fun makes me happy to be alive.

A friend of mine recently shared a quote with me which was said by Nelson Mandela: ‘The true character of society is revealed in how it treats its children.’

Although there are not many treats left in our house this evening.

Special delivery

I’d been hanging about, waiting for a delivery.

When the time slot came and went, I went online to track my parcel.

‘Insufficient information – please ring this number.’

So I rang the number three times, went through the various ‘press this number for this, press this number for that’ options, only for the call to be cut off each time.

Feeling increasingly like Victor Meldrew, I went back online. Looking in more detail at the tracking information, I could see that the driver apparently couldn’t find me because he needed more information about my address.

Usually, a house name, street, village, town and postcode does the trick. There are only about six other houses here with the same postcode. It’s not that difficult to find.

Maybe I should have hung out a big sign from the window saying: ‘DELIVERY EXPECTED HERE TODAY’ with a massive arrow pointing to the front door.

I went online again to see if there was a number I could call to speak to a human. When I put the company’s name in the search engine of my laptop, dozens of terrible reviews came up. They could have been written by me.

Awful service. Bad service, would not recommend. Appalling service.

I found a Twitter address so messaged the company that way.

Bingo, a response came back almost instantly from Charlotte in Customer Services. She arranged for the parcel to be redelivered the next day. (I’m waiting for it now.)

Having wasted several hours, I gathered up my things. I just had time to stick the dog in the back of the car and drive into town. I dropped off a package at the post office at a quarter to five and then lugged two bags of unwanted clothes to my favourite charity shop.

It was ten to five and the manager was cashing up.

She took one look at me and the bags. Her face fell almost to the counter, her shoulders dropped and she let out a massive, irritated sigh.

Taken aback, I turned round and walked out of the shop.

‘It’s all right, it’s all right, I can take the bags,’ she shouted after me.

‘It’s okay, I’ll take them somewhere else,’ I said. I don’t usually get the hump and she’d probably had a bad day too, but it’s put me off going back there for a while.

So I drove to West Bay, where the wind whipped up the sea and the dog chased a tennis ball, backwards and forwards, backwards and forwards.

With the fresh, sea air on my face, the waves crashing on the shingle, I thought to myself, get a grip. If this is a bad day, it’s not so bad at all. I really should be grateful for small mercies.

Any road up, the doorbell’s ringing. It could be my parcel.