Let sleeping dogs lie

Little dog Ruby is missing her companion.

She’s going through a whole gamut of emotions since we said goodbye to Arty. There’s sadness, confusion and quietness. Sometimes she’s clingy and then the next minute she just wants to be left alone.

I’m making a fuss of her when she wants it but I’m also respecting her choice when she wants to slink off quietly in a corner. I’ll be keeping a close eye on her over the next few weeks and months.

We all handle grief differently and our own feelings change constantly. It’s only natural. And so it is with dogs. Ruby knows Arty is gone and things are not the same. She will take time to get used to it.

There is a lot of good advice on the internet about how to help a dog deal with the death of another dog. I am in no hurry to get a new dog, although that could be a possibility further down the line.

At the moment, I’m sticking to Ruby’s routine so she can feel that life goes on. And I’m spending more time playing with her and trying to teach her some new tricks. If Covid restrictions permit, I’m going to organise a few doggy dates for Ruby so she has a canine friend to play with every now and then.

Have you ever been faced with a similar situation? How did you and your dog cope? I’d love to hear your suggestions.

That’s about it.

Love Maddie x

By Maddie Grigg

Maddie Grigg is the pen name of former local newspaper editor Margery Hookings. Expect reflections on rural life, community, landscape, underdogs, heritage and folklore. And fun.


  1. Oh Maddie. I only just found out about Arty…a bit behind in my magazines. We will all miss your mad, wonderful dog. When Toby died Mustard was ok after a while, or so we thought. Many months later we met someone walking a black dog similar to Toby, also called Toby. When the owner called his name as he approached us, Mustard, who had poor sight, leapt forward joyfully. The other dog was friendly but Mustard was so, so disappointed that it was not his Toby. All the best. It will take a while.


    1. Thank you for your kind words, Merrilyn. What a sad story with your poor Mustard who thought Toby had returned. We can’t tell what is inside their heads and probably just as well. Ruby is now enjoying the extra attention and is calming down such a lot.


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